I am utterly convinced that if we could somehow place a good man in every household in South Africa crime would come to a grinding halt, our police force would become all but redundant and social services would never have to leave their offices.
A good man brings order, stability, structure, discipline, love, provision, security, identity. A good man imparts self esteem and values. A good man loves, cares and nurtures. A good man stands for what is right and fights for those he loves.
I am convinced that the epidemic of crime and social disintegration that we are facing as a nation is primarily the result of men not being men, men not fulfilling the role they were designed to fulfill. Men are the ones who rape, kill, abuse and abandon – and the men who do this are themselves wounded and hold deeply distorted views of what true masculinity is. These men come from a background where there is a vacuum of good male role models and have often seen or been the victim of abusive men. The only ones who can stop this ever increasing cycle of destruction are good men.
The reasons why men are failing so dismally are complex and numerous, but the fact is that if we can heal and restore men and mobilise them to be everything that men were designed to be, we will heal and restore families, communities, our country. There is no greater nation building imperative than the restoration of men.