Men have always struggled to ask for directions or seek help. We feel we need to have the answers and even if we don’t, we need to just “man up” and “make it happen”. But that is not the route to success as a man or a father. [Read more]
Divorce is a painful reality which affects almost half of everyone who gets married. Tragically it's our children’s hearts that are so often caught in the crossfire of negative emotions that come with divorce or separation. How do you love, protect, nurture and equip your children through a [Read more]
The early years of childhood can be extremely demanding. One father asked what to do with a wife suffering from postpartum blues and an inconsolable teething infant. Here are three bits of advice. 1. Post partum blues. It is normal for a woman to experience some form of [Read more]
A dad recently asked for advice on how to deal with his 6-year-old son who has suddenly started behaving like a “certified pest”; fighting with his sisters, being messy, forgetful, losing things and generally being a pain in the neck. [Read [Read more]
It may be stating the obvious to say that the number one key to being an excellent father is to build and maintain a good relationship with your child. Yet it’s something a lot of men struggle with. [Read more]
I often get approached by men who say something along the lines of: “I don’t really know what I’m doing. I’m scared I won’t be a good dad. What do I do?” [Read more]
“The deepest search in life, it seemed to me, the thing that in one way or another was central to all living was man’s search to find a father, not merely the father of his flesh, not merely the lost father of his youth, but the image of a [Read more]
As a father you are the most important man in your children’s lives. Dads are their son’s first hero and their daughter’s first romance. It’s an inspiring and deeply fulfilling position to be in but it’s also challenging! [Read more]
Excerpt taken from a talk at the ACT Africa Men's National GBV Conference in October 2021.
There is a silent epidemic of loneliness amongst men. Not because men don’t have friends or family. Not because they don’t have people to hang out with or go places with. Lonely because they are not truly seen and authentically connected. [Read [Read more]
Statistics South Africa unpacked alarming trends that have an impact on children's education and well-being. In a report released in February this year, StatsSA revealed that most children in South Africa live in non-standard family structures with mostly one of their biological parents. The research, which was [Read more]
According to Father A Nation, 21% of children 17 years old and under do not live with their parents. Only 42% of children with their mothers and 64% of children don’t live in the same household as their biological fathers. This has left many children to stay [Read more]
Dads on holiday can be a scary thing. Physiotherapists and chiropractors have a field day trying to repair muscles and tendons expected to leap into action after 49 weeks of cubicle dwelling. Somehow us men develop a gap between what we think our bodies can do and what they [Read more]
Dads need to help boys understand and shape masculinity. In years past, fathers were often "there, but not there," according to Craig Wilkinson, a dad of two and founder of Father a Nation, a South African nonprofit that addresses gender-based violence, crime and fatherlessness by restoring and equipping [Read more]
Each child has a unique identity; a combination of personality traits, talents and passions that combine to equip them for their life purpose. It’s your duty as a father to help them discover what their skill set is and how this melds with their heart’s [Read more]